Emotional Resiliency
Fill out the questions below, being as honest as you can.
Emotional Resilience Questions
1.Have I ever not gone to work because I could not deal with the people there?
2. Have I ever avoided something due to my emotions about it i.e. “I cannot go to that interview because I am too nervous”
3. Have I been so sad that I avoided certain people because they are too happy?
4. Do I disengage (or “disassociate”) when people that I’m talking to have more emotion than I’m ready for?
5. Is anger my first response to being corrected?
If any of your answers are yes,
Your emotional resilience can be improved
Codependent Behaviors by Enneagram Type
TYPE 1
Giving someone advice because you just know that it will help, even when they’ve told you they don’t want it
TYPE 2
Guilt tripping someone you have helped when they did not help you in return.
TYPE 3
Lying to someone about yourself so that they will continue to ask you for help
TYPE 4
Crying to make sure someone does not leave or cut you off because you know they still need you
TYPE 5
Not answering your phone to make sure someone cannot tell you something like ending your relationship
TYPE 6
Always paying the bill even when the other person said they would because you can’t trust them to do it correctly
TYPE 7
Force someone to go do something with you because you know it will help
TYPE 8
Demanding that someone do something that helps them
TYPE 9
Lending money to someone who needs it when you don’t have the money to lend
Establish healthy emotional practices today
Stress’s effects on your Enneagram Type
*Remember stress is temporary. If you or someone you know is engaging in these behaviors for more than 2 months, please seek help.
01
Unhealthy TYPE 4
Under stress Type 1’s can behave depressed and alienated, emotionally paralyzed, and ashamed of themselves.
02
Unhealthy TYPE 8
Under stress Type 2’s can behave ruthless, dictatorial, hard-hearted, and con-artist-like.
03
Unhealthy TYPE 9
Under stress Type 3’s can behave repressed, underdeveloped, neglectful, and feel incapable of facing problems.
04
Unhealthy TYPE 2
Under stress Type 4’s can behave manipulative and self-serving, instilling guilt by telling others how much they owe them.
05
Unhealthy TYPE 7
Under stress Type 5’s can behave impulsively and infantile, do not know when to stop, and offensive.
06
Unhealthy TYPE 3
Under stress Type 6’s can behave exploitative and opportunistic, covetous of others success, and willing to do “whatever it takes”.
07
Unhealthy TYPE 1
Under stress Type 7’s can behave highly dogmatic, self-righteous, intolerant, and inflexible.
08
Unhealthy TYPE 5
Under stress Type 8’s can behave reclusive and isolated from reality, highly unstable and fearful of aggressions.
09
Unhealthy TYPE 6
Under stress Type 9’s can behave panicky, volatile, and self-disparaging with acute inferiority feelings.