Writing about this topic was challenging. It took me a long while to feel like I could even write these things in ways that made sense or was helpful to others. I also did not want to publicly “air my dirty laundry” i.e. give out personal details that would be embarrassing to me and my ex. I’m not in the business of shaming him or anyone else. I think I have managed to steer clear of the nasty details.
I also want to state that I did not look like a decent or sane person during some of the parts of my divorce. I never want to give the impression that I went through my divorce unscathed or with a completely clear conscience. I came out with things I regret saying and doing.
But I realized that by telling my story and sharing what I learned along the way is valuable to others. So I hope that you read on (there will be multiple parts to this blog post) to feel less alone, to be able to better understand a friend who’s experiencing this, or to be able to let go of some of your preconceived notions about people who get divorced. At the end (or middle or beginning) if you have questions, please feel free to reach out to me here in the comments or message me privately.